Dating and relationships are ideally supposed to be a two way street where each contribute their quota to make it a loving one.
But the reality is a far cry from the ideal situation. Men are not only
naturally expected to financially sponsor the relationship but also
women expect their man to bear the cost of their personal expenses too.
The case is prevalent especially in African homes and one lady seem to
be taking a stand against the trend, pointing out the pressures men face
that their women need to help or at least, not add their own load to it
In a Facebook post, Adjoaa Boateng, compared the situation with her native Ghanaian women and her experience in other cultures in the US.
She concluded that Dating someone’s son doesn’t mean he should pay
for all of a ladys expenses. She further adviced that women rather work
hard to sort themselves out because men already have too much pressure on them.
“I am so tired of hearing Ghanaian women complain about Ghanaian
men being stingy. Dating someone’s son doesn’t mean they should pay for
all your expenses. I noticed that this mindset only comes from us
Ghanaian women and I do not blame them but rather our forefathers back
then. Women are capable of doing anything they set their mind to. After
living in America for 16 years i learned that the reason why most of the
women abroad are even more successful than men is because they work
hard and they do not rely on men. I think if Africans can do the same
then men will respect us. You can’t put your burden on a young man who
also has his own dreams and aspirations to fulfil. Men actually go
through a lot of things more than us women. The only difference is men
just do not talk about it. Men are actually under more pressure to
succeed if y’all do not know. Thank you. Sincerely someone who honestly
understand both genders.” She wrote.